For years, I've wanted to do the right thing as well as the “normal thing” and marry a girl. I've pondered and mulled over the possibility, over and over and over, because I've wanted to be "normal". Don’t get me wrong, as I think girls are beautiful, wonderful people and I've experienced some of my greatest life moments with them. However, I've just never been sexually attracted to them.
I have even been told 13 times by different women that ‘God’ had spoken to them that I was going to marry them. There was also one woman that didn’t share my spiritual beliefs. However, when I found out that she was going to leave her husband for me, I almost fell over! What a lucky man I am! I was never told the same thing by “god”, let alone attracted to women. So, it wasn’t for lack opportunity that I "chose" my lifestyle". Many guys have also been attracted to me, and I to some of them. That created a "big problem". I believed that being a Christian, I could not enter in to a same-sex relationship as that would be sin, and I would be separated from God and would go to the “fiery pits of hell” where all of sinners end up! This understanding came from the sister of the lady across the street where I grew up. She scared me into “God's Love?” (My Point of View has changed, but that is for a separate discussion; what I will say is that God is not fear!). I tried everything. I allowed demons to be “cast” out of me, I went for counseling, I utilized the power of thought, and I even tried being “healed” from this “Sickness” through prayer, (I am defiantly ‘Qwerky” just not “Sick”). NONE of it worked and it just made me truly sick and even more confused, so the only alternative for me was celibacy. It worked for 12 short years. I didn’t want to do what a lot of other Christians have done, and that is to marry “normal” and try to carry out a “normal” life. I was not willing to do that as I knew I would ruin the life of my wife, and I also knew I could never truly give her the "Love” she deserved. The marriage would have been a charade (or beard) (she is now happily married with a lovely daughter in the UK). I couldn’t wait until this life was over. As each year passed, it steadily got worse trying to walk out celibacy knowing I would never experience what it's like to be “loved”. I turned to food to mask my body shape, as I didn't want to be attractive to either sex. The food and drink became the “go-to pleasure” to maintaining a weight that allowed me to hide physically. That was just one part, but I was still left with the relationship part. While in ministry for 8 years, it was challenging to say the least (I had a lot of support as long as I stayed “true to natural”; when that changed I could count on one hand the number of true friends I had left). Despite my vigilance, my world changed and Love found me. He was truly the best thing that ever happened. It did, however, destroy everything I had built in the previous 12 years. My old life was essentially over, and I lost everything that I knew to be safe and secure. He couldn’t deal with his predisposed sexual orientation, so under the bus I went and the church leadership were willing passengers/navigators as he drove the bus to what was “normal” (he is now “normally married”). One year in to a life of hell and betrayal, I needed to live again. Otherwise I would have truly died, but I choose to live, so it was time to “reboot”. I chose to leave the church on my own terms, I needed a different point of view. The Church leadership believed that I still needed help, and they were right! Just not the "help" they prayed for. So I did get help, and my eyes have been opened. “I once was blind but now I see”. I used to be ruled by fear but now I am truly free, a blessing in disguise. I have nothing to hide anymore! My perspective has changed, I don't ever want anything to do with organised religion. However, I do want community and love that is inclusive and kind. As I have been walking out the opportunities and relationships that have been placed before me these past two years, I’ve traveled and lived in many parts of North America as well as the UK for both business as well as for personal healing. Last but not least Zack, a man of inspiration for me, a young man with Integrity and Character, Best life story I have ever had the privilege to experience! (Here) Zack’s life has inspired me to change my life. I hope my story will help inspire you! Sincerely: Trent Reynolds Go The Distance Music That has Inspired me through this journey
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A Pastor Asks A Politician Why He Supports Gay Marriage. It Seems He Wasn't Prepared For His Reply.
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What do you do when you're a politician live on television and a pastor who is against marriage equality asks you why you support marriage
rights for all? You take note from Australia's prime minister, Kevin Rudd, a devout Christian, and do exactly what he does in these amazing four minutes. Thank you Rossalyn Warren 
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Pride Lyrics by Amy MacDonald
I never felt like this before Try to hold it back and I feel it even more Sweat drips down my spine and my knees are weak I can not move, I can not speak But then you came and I held it together again I managed to stumble through Fifty thousand voices singing in the rain There's nothing that I wouldn't do 'Cause I'd move mountains if you asked me to I'll swim the seven seas I'll be the one to hold your torch again I'll do anything you asked of me 'Cause I'd move mountains if you asked me to I'll swim the seven seas I'll be the one to hold your torch again I'll do anything you asked of me I never knew how proud I'd feel just standing in the rain. These three Words mean everything to me and I'd sing it again and again. 'Cause I'd move mountains if you asked me to I'll swim the seven seas I'll be the one to hold your torch again I'll do anything you asked of me 'Cause I'd move mountains if you asked me to I'll swim the seven seas I'll be the one to hold your torch again I'll do anything you asked of me Well the blue and the white of the flag shines bright and it's blowing There for me. With my hand on my heart, the honest truth there's nowhere I'd rather be. 'Cause I'd move mountains if you asked me to I'll swim the seven seas I'll be the one to hold your torch again I'll do anything you asked of me 'Cause I'd move mountains if you asked me to I'll swim the seven seas I'll be the one to hold your torch again I'll do anything you asked of me |
Carry You Lyrics by Union J
Don't ever say you're lonely Just lay your problems on me And I'll be waiting there for you The stars can be so blinding When you get tired of fighting You know the one you can look to When the vision you have gets blurry You don't have to worry, I'll be your eyes It's the least I can do, cause when I fell, you pulled me through So you know that Ill carry you, Ill carry you, Ill carry you So you know that Ill carry you, Ill carry you, Ill carry you I know it's been a long night, but now I'm here it's alright I've done my walking in your shoes We'll take each step together, til you come back to center You know that I'm not the real you And when the vision you have gets blurry You don't have to worry, I'll be your eyes That's the least I can do, cause when I fell, you pulled me through So you know that Ill carry you, Ill carry you, Ill carry you So you know that Ill carry you, Ill carry you, Ill carry you Like youve been running for hours and cant catch your breath The demons are screaming so loud in your head Youre tired youre broken youre cut and youre bruised But nothings too heavy just hold on, Ill carry you Ill carry you [Instrumental] So you know that Ill carry you, Ill carry you, Ill carry you So you know that Ill carry you, Ill carry you, Ill carry you So you know that Ill carry you, Ill carry you, Ill carry you |
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